Everything happens for a reason.
If it’s meant to be, it’s meant to be.
Just gotta have faith.
We’ve heard these phrases. Whether based in religiosity, a fortune cookie, a wise mentor, or wherever, we’ve heard them and have used them to make meaning of a messy life, buffer against an un-preferred outcome, or reduce internal anxiety about an upcoming situation. Effective, sure. But there are limits to this. “Reason” didn’t get me through four years of college football. “Meant to be” didn’t write my dissertation. And “faith” didn’t start my private practice. Nope, a plan of attack, diligence, and action did. Though I can appreciate the support and well-being that these phrases and resulting perspective can offer, let’s not forget that at the end of the day, if we want something to happen, we have to do our part. We have to make a plan and take some steps. The success fairy doesn’t magically leave a new job under my pillow. Santa won’t bring me a college degree. The Easter Rabbit won’t ask out the girl at Starbucks for me. There’s no weight loss at the end of a rainbow. Nope, in addition to a little bit of faith, we need a whole lot of action. Even the Buddha mops.